Is Your Child Ready For Potty Training

Most children show an interest in learning to potty between the ages of 18-36months. Yet every child is different. If you ask your friends, you'll hear every story under the sun from, "My daughter trained herself at 22 months," to "My five year old still won't poop on the potty."

As a parent you want to remain calm and know that your developmentally skillful child will surely be using the potty by elementary school so don't freak out:). One thing I wish someone had told me before I introduced the potty to our children was that many children pee train before they poop train. No challenge, it will all come in time. Breathe, relax.

Let's begin with signs you child might be ready.

Cognitive Signs

Can follow simple instructions, such as "go get the toy."
Understands the value of putting things where they belong.
Has words for pee and poop.
Has awareness that pee or poop are coming out.
Feels the urge to pee or poop.
Can communicate that urge.

Behavioral Signs

Shows interest in other people using the potty.
Wants to look at or watch people going potty.
Gives a verbal noiuse or sign that she is pottying such as grunting, squatting, or telling you.
Demonstrates a desire for independence.
Takes pride in her accomplishments.
Seems eager to use the potty.

Physical Signs

Can sit down quietly in one position for two to five minutes.
Can pull his pants up and down.
Does not like the feeling of wearing a wet or dirty diaper.
Wants the dirty diaper to come off.
Takes the dirty diaper off himself.
Can walk and run with relative ease.
Can hold her pee for three-four hours or more (this shows bladder control)
Has regular, well-formed bowel movements at relatively predictable times.

Next we'll take a look at introducing pottying to your "potty-ready" child.

Taming Your Toddlers Tantrums

Don’t get too frustrated – tantrums are normal. Little guys and gals with a limited vocabulary need to act out their emotions. The first step to avoiding tantrums is understanding what causes them. There are several common reasons:

• Frustration: Toddlers are just beginning to need to have some control; but of course, most of their life is still out of their control. They want to be able to communicate, but their vocabulary is limited. They want to do things for themselves, but are often unable. They want to have things their way, but often can’t. All of these things create frustration, and cause tantrums.

• Feeling overwhelmed – Hunger, fatigue and discomfort can all make a child feel overwhelmed and cause tantrums.

• Needing attention – Toddlers often act out just because they don’t feel they’re getting enough attention. Try spending some more quality time playing with them and you may see an improvement in the number of tantrums.

The best way to deal with tantrums is to plan ahead, so that they never start. There are some fairly easy ways to prevent tantrums; here are a few to get you started.

• Don’t put them in stressful situations when they’re tired or hungry – Taking a toddler to run errands when he’s hungry is asking for trouble.

• Establish a routine – Toddlers thrive on routine, because knowing what to expect is comforting to them. Big activities like meals and naps should happen at about the same time each day. Be sure that your child is getting some interaction with other children, too. Playgroups or preschool are a big help, because your child learns that rules apply to everyone.

• Give them some control – Your child will respond positively to the opportunity to make some choices. Make them simple; such as choosing between cereal and a waffle for breakfast. The more you can create situations where your child feels in control, the less they’ll resist you.

Remember that tantrums are a phase you really can’t avoid. However, your response to them will, in part, determine how long you have to deal with them. Don’t give in to your toddler’s demands – that’s just teaching them that tantrums work!

Instead, redirect their behavior and don’t lose your cool. If you create situations that avoid tantrums, and you handle them effectively when they do occur, you can rest assured that your child will outgrow them.

For more help read: Nanny To The Rescue by Michelle LaRowe.